Memorial Day is fraught with difficult memories for me, especially over the Vietnam conflict, one that, though fought with deadly force in Southeast Asia, caused great argument and bitterness here as well, as families argued over its morality and the government’s policies in pursuing it. I wish it had never happened, none of it. But we cannot fully undo the things we do, not through regret, nor apology, and never even with enough financial recompense (maybe seemingly appropriate responses) to those, military or civilian, most harmed by our actions.